Tweens, Still

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The tween years. They continue to perplex us, amaze us, frustrate us, overwhelm us, and drive us to our knees. And just when we think we finally have one stage figured out, here comes another. Feels like holding on tight to a pole in a tornado and just hoping we can hang on long enough to get through it.

The other night there was an incident. We were away from home, but at a trusted location. I excused said tween from the family for a few minutes and left her near the van while I went back in for the rest of our things. Before I walked away, I handed her my phone and told her to take a picture or two while she refocused herself.

When I saw her again five minutes later she presented me with this.

It was a sweet moment and it passed, to be followed later by more turbulence. But to be followed later still by more sweet. Such is the stage we’re in and I’m glad for this little visual reminder of what has been and what will be again.

Grace doesn’t take away the pain, but it does provide hope as we weather the path together.

And weather it together we will.


6 thoughts on “Tweens, Still

  1. Chardunham says:

    To think back to our own “tweendom” will bring about a clearer understanding of this difficult, but intriguing stage. (And it is but a stage.) Focus on the hope that grace provides and move on.
    The photo does a great job of expressing the adolescent mind much of the time. Beautiful job, Tween!


  2. martha brady says:

    good advice char! spoken like one who has lived thro’ it…as have i. wish i had focused more on god’s grace at the time, but i learned more of it then.
    realizing that their outbursts represent pain, anxiety, fear…and being on their side of the growth experience can help us show more grace and compassion and realize it really isn’t all personal at us. Of course, sin is involved too, but it isn’t always helpful to pounce on the sin b/f allowing them to express what needs to be expressed. hopefully they can learn to express themselves with respect sooner rather than later…depending how we respond!
    getting out of the situation…and giving them tools for creative outlets…all helpful! the earlier (in the tweens) the “rebellion” starts, the healthier i think. they are home with you and it can be managed. when they don’t “rebel” until later, they are out driving, etc. and you don’t have as much “control”.
    anything that puts us on our knees is actually good isn’t it? who woulda thunk it?


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