I just found this post from A Musing Maralee tonight and here’s an excerpt:
So because it is painful to love and to lose, does that mean we choose not to love? God forbid.
We choose to do what is right because it is RIGHT. For no other reason. Not because it feels good or because it will be so rewarding. Sometimes we may not see that reward until we see The Father’s face and He explains to us why we had to walk that road. But I would rather suffer the heartbreak to be obedient than to run away from pain and miss the joy of loving who God has called me to love. If Christians are too afraid of pain to risk loving children they can’t keep and whose futures they can’t control, who will? If we aren’t willing to do what’s right just because it’s right, what do we expect other people to do?
So much good in this. And really, I wanted to copy her entire post and paste it right here. I’ll link to it twice instead.
This picture above is one of the very best shots of Chloe I have. And I have a lot of shots of Chloe. So happy, so content, so much loving her unasked for role of temporary big sister to E3. He loves her too. He calls her, “My Chloe!” He has recently started doing that with all of the girls’ names and they all really like having him here, some a little more than others, but Chloe has taken to this gig in a way I simply didn’t see coming.
And is it going to rip her heart out when he gets a new placement in the future? Yes. I believe it is. And it’s going to rip my heart out twice – once when he leaves and a second time to see it happen to my kids. But as Maralee said above, we do what is right because it is right. And doing the right thing downright sucks sometimes. Yet we do it anyway. Because we should.
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This is so often what I hear when people find out we are fostering….”OH, I could never do that b/c of what it would do to my heart.” Granted, it’s a realistic and natural response to the thought but it’s a statement that is focused on “me” and not on the child. If I only give the child a small window of love, affection, and the gospel, then it’s worth it and makes it about the child’s well being, not our broken hearts. Love ya, Megan. One day I’m gonna hug you.
“And doing the right thing downright sucks sometimes.” I love this sentence. It is so true.